If You Want To Be Happy DON’T Do These Things!


11 Interesting Things That Happy People Never Do

I was recently interviewed by Bustle.com, a great website that describes itself as written for women by women that delivers everything you might want to know, see, and read right now!  The website is definitely worth a look and has lots of good articles. Anyway, they were writing an article about things happy people never do and asked me for suggestions.  I have to say I have never thought about happiness that way, I tend to give advice about what people can do to make themselves happier rather than what not to do, but after some thought I came up with four suggestions.

Below are the 4 tips I suggested and if you would like to read the whole article the link is below. The other 7 tips were good too and I’d love to know what you think, do you agree or perhaps there are other things you think happy people never do?

So if you want to be happy DON’T DO THESE THINGS!

Say Yes To Everything

It’s important to spend time with your friends and family, and sometimes you have obligations you are better off attending, but happy people don’t say yes to every single thing they’re asked to do. “We tend to say yes to things we don’t want to do or have time for because we don’t want to upset someone or have them not like us,” says psychologist Dr. Sarah Allen over email. “But if you are always saying yes, it leads to being over-scheduled, tired, and cranky.”

Neglect Sleep

Sleep is important for more than just not feeling tired. “Not getting enough sleep can over time affect mood and impair memory and attention,” says Allen. “It is not uncommon for people who don’t get enough sleep to be depressed and when chronic lack of sleep becomes a way of life, it can negatively affect your job and relationships.”

Involve Themselves In Drama

“If you are content, there is no need to make yourself and the people around you feel riled up,” says Allen. “Creating drama fills a void, whether it’s because you’re sad, bored or just want to feel better about yourself by making others miserable. Happy people try to sort out potential conflicts before they blow up out of control.”

Take The Positive Things For Granted

“Happy people never take the positive things that happen to them for granted,” says Allen. “Unhappy people tend to ignore the positive and notice the bad things that have happened, and also tend to ignore the positive influence we have over things and events.” I always suggest keeping a gratitude journal to help you notice the good things that happen during the day rather than focusing on the negative.  

by Carina Wolffe, Bustle.com


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