Online Therapy For Pregnant & New Moms

In the past decade and what I now call typical times, many of the pregnant and new moms I have worked with utilized remote counseling (also called online therapy or teletherapy), as it allowed them access expert help from a maternal mental health specialist without worrying about driving a long distance or weather conditions.

When you have a newborn, the unpredictability of the baby’s schedule, nursing and  your physical recovery or tiredness may mean that getting out of the house to an office appointment can be difficult and teletherapy means that you can get that extra support at the time you are most likely to need it.

Because we are in the middle of a global pandemic, these are not typical times! No woman who became pregnant in the last few months, or gave birth recently, expected to be facing social distancing or the fear and uncertainty Covid-19 has brought and now remote sessions are a necessity not an option.

Becoming a parent is one of the most life-changing transitions you will experience and research over the past two decades has shown that typically 1 in 5 (20%) new moms will experience pregnancy and/or postpartum anxiety or depression and approximately 5-9% of women will experience postpartum post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following childbirth.

We don’t know the statistics yet, but I think the uncertainty, isolation and stress that has accompanied Covid-19, will mean a much greater percentage of women will experiencing anxiety, depression or trauma symptoms. What I do know though, is that when moms are supported, they have a much easier time navigating the challenges of pregnancy and early motherhood.

 

Currently many pregnant and new moms are struggling with these questions:

1. How am I going to cope with the added stress and uncertainty of being a new mom during a pandemic?

2. Is social distancing going to affect my support and leave me isolated?

3. I am typically an anxious person, but how am I going to cope now my anxiety is through the roof?

4. How am I going to cope if my labor experience isn’t how I expected it to be?

Whether you need a few sessions to help the transition, or perhaps longer treatment due to a prior history of anxiety or depression, or a traumatic delivery, it certainly can help to work with a professional who understands how treatment of maternal mental health issues are different from treating general anxiety and depression.

You are not alone in going through this and I know how to empower you by providing short-term, solution focused therapy to develop your coping strategies and process the difficult, conflicting emotions you may be experiencing.

Therapy provides a means of helping you gain a different perspective and insight about what you are experiencing and Cognitive Therapy (CBT) gives you the tools to manage overwhelming emotions.

The important thing at the moment is that you are carving out some time to look after your own mental health. During times of stress, you are more able to deal with your own stress or issues with your family or spouse, if you take time for your own self-care.

 

But Is Remote Therapy An Effective Treatment For New Moms?

Although I have been working with pregnant and postpartum women for 25 years, I only started thinking about offering remote therapy about 10 years ago. I found that because there weren’t enough therapists who had specialist training and experience treating maternal mental health issues, I was getting contacted by women from all over the state, many who traveled over an hour or more each way to see me.  That is when I began looking for research studies that showed postpartum depression can be equally effectively using online therapy.

One of the first studies I found was a British study that showed the women who received the remote counseling for postpartum depression reported better results for depression and anxiety scores immediately after they had received the treatment as well as six months after treatment. The study lead researcher, Dr. Heather O’Mahen, said that the results (published in the journal Psychological Medicine), indicated that internet-based treatment had a positive effect in reducing postpartum depression as a whole and because it provided support in their homes it was convenient allowing them to complete a course of therapy. She added: “Our hope is that this will allow more women to access and benefit from support, with all the knock-on positives that come from that: happier families, improved quality of life for moms”.

More recently, the American Psychological Association (APA) published an article stating that research demonstrates that psychotherapy delivered via the phone is as effective as the care delivered in person. A review of 13 studies found significant reductions in symptoms of anxiety and depression when therapy was provided via telephone (Coughtrey and Pistrang, 2018) and the World Journal of Psychiatry concluded that there is a large evidence base that supports teletherapy being as effective as in office therapy.

In addition to the research on postpartum depression and teletherapy, I have found that pregnant moms experience the same rates of depression and anxiety as postpartum moms and remote therapy is also effective during pregnancy as it can be very helpful to develop coping strategies to deal with anxiety before the baby arrives. Both pregnancy and postpartum anxiety and depression are very common and treatable. I do want to stress that whether support is provided remotely or in my office when social distancing is over, you don’t have to go through this alone.

 

Is Remote Therapy Confidential & Private?

Yes! At the moment I am conducting remote sessions from my home office which is in a separate area from the rest of my family so no one can overhear or interrupt our sessions. When we are no longer sheltering in place, I also conduct remote sessions from my Northbrook office.

I use a HIPAA compliant video conferencing platform that can work on wifi or cellular data, which means it enables my clients to find a way to talk to me in whatever way they can, whether it is a place in their house where they won’t be disturbed (I don’t mind if the only place you can get a bit of privacy at the moment is in your bathroom or closet!) or they sit in their car in their garage or parking lot or go out for a walk. We will find a way that works best for you!

Is Remote Therapy Covered By Insurance?

Although there are some variations depending what policy you have, most healthcare insurance plans provide coverage for teletherapy in the same way they cover in-office therapy.  I am out of network with all insurance companies and you can read more about my fees and how out of network insurance works, including questions to ask your insurance company before you start therapy on this page Dr. Allen’s Fees and Out of Network Insurance.

 

Dr. Allen offers online or telephone sessions to make it more convenient for pregnant and new moms to get specialist help.

Click here to read more about accessing help via online or telephone support.

 

Other articles by Dr. Allen you may be interested in:

When Your Baby’s Cry Causes You Anxiety

 

 

 

The Facts About Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety

 

 

 

When Your Childbirth Experience Wasn’t What You Hoped For

 

 

 

Is It Postpartum Depression or Something Else?

 

 

 

 

Click to read more articles on  Dr. Allen’s Pregnancy & Postpartum Blog

 

If you want to read more about maternal mental health download the FREE Guide To Pregnancy & Postpartum Stress, Anxiety & Depression. It is full of information about symptoms, different types of maternal mood disorders and advice about what to do to start feeling like yourself again.

Dr. Sarah Allen has 25 years experience as a psychologist empowering women as they transition through pregnancy and being a new mom, whether it is your first or not. She is also the Director of the Postpartum Depression Alliance of IL, a non-profit offering info and support to pregnant and postpartum moms and their families.

She offers telephone or online counseling as they are the most convenient way for pregnant and new moms to access support and help. Unfortunately, Dr. Allen’s professional license only allows her to work with IL residents.

If you have questions after reading this article or the Guide To Pregnancy & Postpartum Stress, Anxiety & Depression or have any questions about how counseling can be useful to your particular circumstances please contact me at 847 791-7722 or on the form below.

 

There has been a growing awareness about Postpartum Depression over the past decade and doctors offices now routinely screen moms for it, but I think anxiety, during pregnancy and after having a baby, is nearly as common and just as debilitating. It is time to focus on how many women are affected by anxiety and educate our community so we are all aware of the symptoms and how to access appropriate help.

Approximately 6% of pregnant and 10% of new moms experience anxiety, and remember that statistic comes from the number of women actually reporting it so imagine how many women go through anxiety and don’t mention it to their doctors or reach out for help. You are definitely not alone in going through this and treatment is available and really can help.

What Risk Factors Influence Pregnancy & Postpartum Anxiety?

The short answer is that we know that women with these risk factors are especially susceptible:

• If she has previously experienced anxiety or if there is a family history of a mood disorder, such as depression or anxiety.
• Previous mood reaction to hormonal changes i.e. history of premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) which is a severe form of PMS, puberty or birth control.
• If she has limited practical and emotional support.
• If there are high levels of life and relationship stress.
• Being divorced, widowed, or separated.
• Economic stress.
• Having experienced traumatic or stressful events in the past, especially a previous pregnancy loss or traumatic childbirth
• Feeling ambivalent about being pregnant.
• If she has a high-risk pregnancy i.e. twins, pregnancy complications etc..

The long answer is – it’s complicated and I don’t think it is just one factor that affects whether you are at risk or not. No doubt biological, psychological and social factors all play a role.

Some experts think mood changes, such as anxiety and depression, are due to the rapid hormonal changes, especially during the first and third trimesters. The amount of estrogen and progesterone in the blood increases in order to prepares a woman’s body for pregnancy then rapidly decreases after childbirth. These significant changes to hormone levels can affect the level of neurotransmitters, which are brain chemicals that regulate mood.

Estrogen levels soar during pregnancy, increasing by more than 100 times their normal levels. There is a link between estrogen and serotonin (the “happy” brain chemical) but it isn’t a case of more estrogen = more happiness because although we don’t fully understand how they interact with each other, we do know that changes, fluctuations and imbalances in serotonin can cause emotional dysregulation and mood swings. Anxiety and irritability, are especially associated with estrogen changes.

Progesterone levels also affect mood and help relaxation, which sounds great. Unfortunately, increased and fluctuating levels of progesterone during pregnancy, and the huge drop in levels postpartum, can cause fatigue, sadness  and feelings of hopelessness for some women. No wonder new moms are at risk for mood swings!

But while hormones seem to play a role, the exact biological mechanisms and why some women are more sensitive to hormonal fluctuations, are currently not completely understood. I think it is can be a mix of hormonal changes and the amount of stress women are under as well as their prior history of infertility issues, pregnancy loss and trauma, that makes a woman more likely to experience anxiety.

It is important to note though, that just because you recognize that you have one or more of these risk factors, doesn’t mean that you will definitely experience anxiety.

What Are The Different Types of Anxiety?

Pregnancy Anxiety

Pregnancy is a time of tremendous change. The physical symptoms relating to fatigue and morning sickness can really affect how you function but it is the emotional part of not knowing what is normal, or not, as well as the worry about the health of the baby and what is going to happen to your life when you are a parent that typically brings some level of worry, especially if this is your first baby.

Some worry is normal but if you begin to have frequent, severe anxious and very distressing thoughts, then normal worry has moved to a level where it is interfering with your daily functioning and help from a professional could be necessary. The process of trying to get pregnant, fear of miscarriage, especially if there is a previous loss or infertility treatments, can all cause anxiety or exacerbate pre-existing anxiety. A lot of my clients say that they have always been a worrier and others say they weren’t anxious until getting pregnant. Either way, seeking help during pregnancy can really help prevent anxiety from continuing to affect you after you have the baby.

Postpartum Anxiety

When the baby arrives every new parent worries that they don’t really know what they are doing and somehow, inadvertently, they may do something, or not do something, that causes harm to their baby. Are they getting enough milk, sleep, developing okay???

Until a baby arrives, you don’t realize how totally vulnerable a little human is and now you are totally responsible for it! This can be scary sometimes but these worries are totally normal and everyone gets them occasionally.

Postpartum anxiety is different and more intense and persistent than typical new parent concerns. If you have any of the symptoms below for most of the day, you probably have postpartum anxiety. If they persist for more than a couple of weeks after the birth (the baby blues effect 80% of women but within 2 weeks mood swings typically calm down) or come on anytime in the first year and last more than two weeks, then it is important to seek support.

 

Symptoms of Pregnancy & Postpartum Anxiety

Racing thoughts – they go round and round in your brain with no off switch.

Worrying – it’s constant, you know the concerns are excessive but that doesn’t stop the worries and when you stop worrying about one thing, your mind jumps to another. Worries often surround the well-being of the baby or your other children, partner and yourself. Women worry they are going crazy and have a feeling of dread in the pit of their stomach.

Lack of concentration – your focus flits from one thing to another and memory is poor.

Restlessness – you are exhausted but so agitated you can’t settle or relax.

Sleep disturbance – you can’t sleep even if the baby is sleeping and when you drop off you don’t wake up energized.

Irritability – you may be able to hide it from friends, your partner will probably be getting the brunt of it.

Physical tension – your muscles are balls of tension, possibly leading to neck, shoulder and backaches.

No appetite – women want to lose the baby pounds but this isn’t the way to do it. Even though you know you should be keeping hydrated and your energy up, you have no appetite for food and may feel nauseous a lot of the time.

 

There are subsets of anxiety symptoms that are important to differentiate.

Panic Attacks

Panic attacks are like anxiety multiplied by 10. They have a sudden onset and are accompanied by intense fear of something bad happening.

Physical symptoms include shortness of breath, chest pain, dizziness, heart palpitations (people often think they are going to have a heart attack), sweating and gastrointestinal upset.

Emotionally you may feel that you are going to somehow lose control, go crazy and may start to avoid situations where you have experienced panic attacks for fear of one happening again.

Panic attacks seem to go in waves, but it is important to know that they will pass and will not hurt you and there are techniques to calm your mind and body down.

The Difference Between Postpartum OCD & Psychosis

OCD is the short name for obsessive compulsive disorder. Obsessions are unwanted thoughts that pop into your head totally uninvited and during pregnancy or after childbirth these thoughts typically revolve around some harm coming to the baby. The thoughts, images or visions can be really horrific and seem very real. Women tend to not tell anyone they have these thoughts for fear of what others may think of them. When we keep thoughts in our head though, they grow more severe and even more frequent.

A lot of time (but not always) the thoughts are accompanied with a compulsion (an overwhelming belief that you MUST do a certain behavior or think certain thoughts in the belief that this will stop the bad thing from actually happening).

Women worry that having these types of thoughts means they are going crazy. When stories get in to the news about postpartum women it is usually because the woman has postpartum psychosis and has done something horrific like harm her baby or driven off a bridge. Those stories are so horrible that the news media jump all over them but only 0.1% of new moms experience postpartum psychosis ( termed PPP). IT IS RARE! Furthermore, only about 4% of this 0.1% harm actually harm themselves or their baby so the likelihood that you are having a psychotic episode (i.e. are not in touch with reality) and will actually cause harm is EXTREMELY RARE but it makes headlines.

About 3 -5% of women experience postpartum OCD so although it is not talked about as much as postpartum depression, it is pretty common and the most important thing to remember is that if you know these thoughts would be a bad thing to do, you are experiencing OCD, not psychosis.

The main symptoms of PPP include delusions or strange beliefs, hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that aren’t there), feeling very irritated & hyper, decreased need for or inability to sleep, paranoia and suspiciousness and rapid mood swings. In a psychotic state, a woman’s delusions and beliefs make total sense to her (but would be irrational to others) and feel very meaningful. Risk factors for PPP are a family history or previous personal history of psychosis or bipolar. Treatment needs to be immediate and requires hospitalization. You see, it is very different from having anxiety-provoking horrible thoughts and still being in touch with reality.

PTSD After Childbirth

Postpartum post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following a difficult childbirth is more common than you think. It is triggered by a real or perceived trauma during delivery and can effect up to 6% of mothers. The traumatic experiences usually leave a women feeling that either her life or the life of her baby is at risk during the labor or shortly thereafter.

Symptoms of fully fledged postpartum PTSD might include intrusive re-experiencing of a past traumatic event (which in this case may have been the childbirth itself, shortly after or events leading up to going to the hospital), flashbacks or nightmares, avoidance of stimuli associated with the event, persistent increased arousal (irritability, difficulty sleeping, hyper-vigilance, exaggerated startle response), anxiety and panic attacks, and feeling a sense detachment.

What I often see in my practice is that women who have had a difficult labor don’t necessarily have the flashbacks and nightmares but they are left with persistent anxiety and hypervigilance about potential harmful things happening in the future or guilt and regret about how labor turned out. If you have had a traumatic labor and would like to read more about this topic, please read my article When Your Childbirth Wasn’t What You Hoped For towards the bottom of this page.

After reading this article do any of these feelings seem familiar? What I really want you to take away from reading this is that pregnancy and postpartum anxiety is much more common that you think it is. Many of the women you know have probably experienced the same thing but just don’t talk about it and struggle on.

Anxiety is very treatable though. You don’t need to struggle by yourself. In particular, I find that cognitive therapy (also known as CBT) is the most effective way to get on top of anxiety.

Cognitive therapy is a problem-solving type of therapy and helps you learn ways to calm yourself down when you are feeling anxious, as well as develop new coping strategies to deal with the stress in your life and to increase your self-care and confidence in being a mother. Although we may talk about the past a little bit to understand who you are today, our focus will be on the “here and now” and how to cope right now as well as learn strategies that will continue to help you in the future.

This type of therapy teaches you to identify the thoughts you have that are unhelpful and cause you to feel more anxious. You will learn ways to challenge and diffuse these negative thoughts and start to think about things in a different, more helpful way. There are also specific strategies for the different types of anxiety: general anxiety, panic attacks, OCD and trauma from pregnancy loss or difficult childbirth.

My professional license only allows me to work with clients who live in Illinois or Florida. If you are not able to work with me, it is important to find a therapist who has specialist training in both CBT and pregnancy and postpartum mood disorders. You will also want your therapist to have had many years of experience working with pregnant and new moms post training .  Also, I think it is really important to find a therapist who makes you feel heard and is easy to talk to, because therapy is a collaboration between you (you know your self better than anyone!) and your therapist who know many strategies and copings techniques.

 

I have two free booklets that are full of information which will be useful to you.

A Guide To Pregnancy & Postpartum Stress, Anxiety & Depression has more information about symptoms, risk factors, how to look after yourself and treatment options.

 

To get your FREE copy of the booklet click the link below

Guide To Pregnancy & Postpartum Stress, Anxiety & Depression

 

 

 

Simple Steps To Overcoming Anxiety & Worrying can be downloaded below and is full of practical tips and exercises to get anxiety more under control.

 

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Dr. Sarah Allen has 25+ years experience as a psychologist helping women transition to being the mom they want to be. She is also the Director of the Postpartum Depression Alliance of IL, a non-profit she started 18 years ago that offers information and support to pregnant and postpartum moms and their families. She has published research on postpartum depression and PTSD after traumatic childbirth and presented at conferences about her work with new moms. You can read her biography here About Sarah

Dr. Allen sees clients In her Northbrook office, in the North Suburbs of Chicago, or via telephone or video counseling in Illinois and Florida .

 

If you would like to make an appointment, please contact Dr. Sarah Allen at 847 791-7722 or

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Other articles by Dr. Allen you may be interested in:

Quiz – Are You At Risk For Pregnancy or Postpartum Anxiety or Depression?

 

 

 

 

When Your Baby’s Cry Causes You Anxiety

 

 

 

 

When Your Childbirth Experience Wasn’t What You Hoped For

 

 

 

Is It Postpartum Depression or Something Else?

 

 

 

Click to read more articles on  Dr. Allen’s Pregnancy & Postpartum Blog

 

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