Relationships can become stagnant if ignored but it is easy to find yourself doing that when feeling overwhelmed by everything else in your life.
Do you feel that you are disconnected from your partner and what started out as a great relationship now has you living like roommates? Are everyday disagreements over money and power issues leaving you drained and resentful? Perhaps you are finding that the smallest of issues turns in to a major argument or maybe you are trying to avoid contact with your partner all together? Many people find themselves in a relationship that has not lived up to their expectations and end up feeling stuck, unheard and unsatisfied. Please don’t give up hope as many couples go through difficult periods. Things can get better.
Together we will find the strategies that work best for you and your relationship.
Through couples therapy with me you will learn techniques that empower you to build a more connected and loving relationship. Together we change the things that aren’t working, and build on the strengths both of you already have. We develop your personal “toolbox” for dealing with problems that come up now, and in the future. Although the past is important in shaping where you are today, and past trauma, anxiety, depression and other emotional issues are discussed, our focus is improving the present.
We acknowledge how hard it is to sustain a good relationship and we can develop the practical and communication skills you need to support each other. Being in a supportive relationship has a very protective effect that makes everyday frustrations, as well as the bigger stresses in life, much more manageable.
Here Are Answers To Some Concerns That Frequently Come Up
Our Arguments Seems Irresolvable, I’m Not Sure You Can Help Us
Many couples feel this way when they first come in. So far your attempts to resolve your conflicts by yourself haven’t been very productive which has probably left you with little hope. However, you will see that by learning to listen to each other and communicate better, problems aren’t insurmountable.
It Is My Partner’s Problems That Are Effecting Our Relationship
Even if it might appear that way to you at the moment, it is rarely just one person’s problems that are causing all the relationship difficulties. The way we interact with each other, bring up our concerns and support each other, affects the relationship so even if one person is having a particularly difficult issue, we can build up your relationship so you can both deal with problems more effectively.
My Partner Won’t Come With Me
This actually comes up frequently. One partner “doesn’t believe in therapy.” Many individuals feel angry or hopeless when their partner refuses to actively engage in making the relationship better. What I have found is it helps more to go into counseling by yourself than to do nothing. In fact, working on the way you personally are effecting the relationship can drastically improve the quality of the relationship for both of you. The changes one partner actively makes can go a long way and often, when the other partner sees your commitment to actively working on things, they become interested in participating too.
Let’s focus on what you want your relationship to be like and create changes to make that a reality.
If you think that your relationship would benefit from this type of approach, please contact Dr. Allen on 847 791-7722 or get in touch by filling out the form below.